Since my very first school report to my very last I have been given the same speech. It usually begins, 'Ellie is a very quite and hard working member of the class. She is always organised and performs each task to the best of her abilities...'
So then we go from your child isn't an attention seeking brat who finds it necessary to shout out and make stupid noises to actually finding something wrong with the fact I would sit in class and get top marks in tasks and wouldn't call you the worlds worst teacher.
It was always the classic, 'However Ellie hasn't once this year contributed in class lessons and I fell as though she needs to raise her hand more to benefit her understanding. ' Even though I would always get good grades and my technic of listening had served me well until this point.
No matter how many times the teachers and my parents would tell me to gain confidence I knew it wasn't going to happen and I stuck to my way of doing things and surprise surprise I did really well at school and the person who was the class clown didn't do so well.
When I was younger I thought I had to suddenly gain confidence out of nowhere and be really loud (and annoying). I felt like I wasn't normal, when IN FACT BEING A LITTLE MORE RESERVED IS OKAY !
Its just who you are, obviously there are so negatives for example maybe not making as many friends but if they don't like you for you they really are not your friends. If you can maybe as you get older try to gain confidence and like me you probably will because once you leave school you haven't got all the idiots labelling you as quiet. You have a chance to be who you want to be or who you always were.
If you remain quiet and that suits you more that is also perfectly okay because that is you!
I think being labelled as quiet and shy is thought of as a bad thing when in fact it the opposite you probably listen to people, have respect and are just a little more reserved.
Ellie xx
